Parents, it does not make you a bad parent to say no to that weekly monetary request. It does not make you a bad parent to make your kid get a job. Take your child out to put in applications. Make it a fun thing to do together. Ease them into independence; teach them. It does not make you a bad parent to make your child pay for their own gas, car maintenance, or insurance. Find what works for you and your child and implement it. Teens need this responsibility. They need to understand that money does not grow on trees. They need to understand that the materialistic culture of this world is not “okay.”
Teens, respect your parents and their instruction. Understand that money is not easy. Washing dishes may have earned you a dollar growing up, but there comes a time when you need to understand that household chores are a family responsibility not a job in which you earn money from. It is not your parent or guardians job to clean the entire house. Do they get paid to do chores? I encourage you to get a job. Be persistent in your pursuit of seeking a work place. Ask for wisdom and help in your seeking of employment. Get that job and then take over your insurance bill or your phone bill. Tithe. Give what is rightfully God’s back to Him. Watch it bless you ten-fold and help you to grow in your faith. Learn to budget. Sit down and budget what is to be tithed, what is for bills, what is for your savings account, and what is left over. Do that with every ounce of your income and see the growth in your maturity, your independence, and the respect you earn from doing so. Not only will you realize that the material things of this world are not as important as you once believed them to be but you will gain a respect that is far greater.
Personally, I think that working my way through school was the best thing. I learned to make my own way, pay my own bills, and had a sense of independence that I would not trade for anything. When you start paying for your own things, you realize how much has been sacrificed for you. Store brands work just as fine as name brands. Eating out is a lot more expensive than eating in. Shopping the clearance racks works out a lot better than shopping the regular one’s.
I often hear young people say that they do not want to work at fast food, grocery stores, etc. They have a very select few options they are willing to work at. But here is the deal, when you are young you start out with what you get. You can’t always choose to work at a high end place. Employers want to first see that you will be a reliable employee. Work at the fast food place, gain that experience, prove that you are reliable. If you still want another job, then continue working there until another employer hires you elsewhere.
My husband worked at McDonald’s for five to six years. It was not his favorite place to be, rather some days he dreaded going in. Some days, he would call me on his lunch and tell me how he wanted to quit so badly. The employers are not always fair, but what in this world is “fair”? Your co-workers will tick you off, but that will most likely happen in the adult world as well. My husband never gave up, no matter how much he wanted to give up flipping patties, he knew that to provide for our family until he was finished with undergrad he had to keep working that job.
For me, I worked at McDonald’s for two months. I hated it. Every single day that I went in. I was never trained. The workplace was filthy. The location I was at should have been shut down. But until I got my job at Food Lion, I did not give my notice. Because I had bills, I was learning to make a way on my own. (I was encouraged by my mom to do this, so not tooting my own horn here at all. I was taught these principles.) I stayed at Food Lion for five years. I enjoyed that job for the most part. I transferred to another location when I went to college. Just like Nathan, many days I wanted to quit. Employers are not always fair. Words thrown at you will often make you cry, but eventually you’ll toughen up. Co-workers can make you want to scream. But on the other hand, you will often find the sweetest friends in your workplace. There are people I met at Food Lion who I hope to always stay connected with.
Guys, it is all about work ethic. Your work ethic needs to be strong. Life is not about the material things of this world. It isn’t about the designer hand bag, the name brands, or the best looks. It’s about who you are on the inside.
Teens, do your parents a favor and initiate job searching yourself. Let your parents know that you appreciate what they do for you. Work hard to make your own way.
Parents, encourage your teens to get out there and make their own way. Encourage them to find jobs. Help them find jobs. Teach them how to write resume’s or help them find someone who knows how. Teach them how to budget. Teach them the importance of tithing. Teach them the importance of growing up and becoming independent. There are too many adults still relying on their parents income in today’s day and age. There comes a point and time, where one must grow up.
Friends, teens, & parents, in such a critical stage of life, I encourage you to work. Find a job. Encourage your child to find a job. If it is fast food, retail, or whatever it may be, & see the growth that comes from working as a teen and young adult. What are your stories? What are your opinions on the subject?