Happy Sunday Friends!!
So today, our pastor said something that got me thinking hard. Well, actually pretty much all of what he said today was like on point, but I just want to focus on this one point he made. It was something like this, that girl you see on instagram with the bun on her head and a caption that reads “messy hair don’t care,” y’all she does care. Most of us girls are guilty of posting things such as this, in no way am I saying it is wrong, but really you do care, I do care. Our pastor pointed out that these types of posts are ways that people seek affirmation from other people. We are all guilty of it I am sure and if not kudos to you, seriously ❤
But let’s think about this. People only post the highlights of their life, not their struggles or ugly t-shirt greasy hair days. They don’t post their fears and worries or worst fights or most embarrassing moments. They don’t post their sin habits or their addictions. They post the prettiest picture after 89 tries, the things that will get the most likes, the things that will make them look amazing to the world.
So, why do we constantly try to measure up to that girl we follow on instagram who has the perfect body, the most charming boyfriend, and by far the best closet in the world? Or that girl who is the all around best athlete with the most toned muscles ever? You get my point. Y’all, we are just tearing ourselves apart by comparing ourselves to the world surrounding us.
So, here’s a story to help get this point across. This weekend Nathan and I took a spur of the moment over night trip to Durham. We have desperately needed some time alone free of all distractions, just the two of us. We had the best night travelling, eating out, and splurging from our norm. Friday after I got off work, we headed out to Durham because who doesn’t get excited about staying in a hotel?? Literally, such a fun and romantic night. All we did was go to Buffalo Wild Wings and walk around a HUGE Walmart. Y’all, we can find fun in pretty much anything, haha! Saturday, when we woke up and got ready we ate breakfast, stopped for coffee, and made our way to Duke University to explore. We had a great time, especially touring the athletic parts of the campus. We took super cute pictures, laughed, people watched, and walked a trillion miles. Well, it felt that way anyways. We even posted our pictures online where everyone can see how great of a weekend we had.
What everyone didn’t see was the dumb argument we got into that made zero sense whatsoever, the tears, the nap in the car I took to shake it off, and then the doughnut we shared when we got over ourselves. I mean y’all it wasn’t a big deal, it was just a miscommunication, something that occurs in like every relationship ever, but y’all did not see that from our post. From the pictures we posted online, you saw that we had a perfect weekend exploring what will be our new town. You didn’t see the fear that was/is creeping into me from moving to a big city, being alone all over again, and starting at a new job again. You just saw our good times. I mean there is no point for us to randomly just tell the world we had a dumb argument or that I struggle with fear. But there is a point to be made, the people you see on social media are not perfect. They have a real life just like you.
Do you see what I mean? Yes, Nathan and I had a lovely and unforgettable weekend, but guys nothing and no one is perfect. Let’s not try to measure up to that girl or guy we see on social media. Let’s be happy for them and their happy moments, but lets also remember that they are human too. They have mom fails, they have ugly greasy headed days, they make a lower grade sometimes, they lose their cool on their kid or spouse once in a while, y’all this is real life. This stuff happens. Don’t measure up. Be content in who God created you to be. Find joy in your mess. Grab a doughnut and an iced coffee and laugh off the dumb foolish argument you just had. Grab your kids and apologize, show them what it’s like to be real and to mess up. Be okay with messing up, don’t overly criticize yourself. Just get back up and try again. We are human. We will always mess up. We will always have bad days.
Be happy in your own skin and be happy with who you are. Friends, we are all humans made of flaws and stitched together with unique beauty.
Psalm 139:13-1813 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand— when I awake, I am still with you.