In life we have a billion opportunities thrown at us daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly. We have school options, club opportunities, new jobs, new babies, new organizations to join, more clubs, more roles to fill at church, some more babies, and you get the point. The calendar that once was blank because all of your time after your chores was spent in the mud in your backyard is now filled with a class here, a meeting their, volunteer here, go to work there, find time for your babies here, and somehow still love on your husband at some point and time.
It is never a bad thing that you are wanted in so many positions, rather you should feel quite loved to be offered so many different things, or feel so grateful to have so many opportunities presented to you.
BUT, it is also never okay to accept so many roles that you experience no joy in doing them. Find what God called you to do in this season of life and do just that. Find joy in being a mommy and hosting a women’s small group, but don’t add 33 other positions to your life or you are going to lose that joy as host and mommy. Find growth in serving at church, working, and being a daddy, but don’t feel the need to reach out to a billion other guys in suits in order for you to earn a hire status at work that will consist of more hours taken away from what you are already called to do. That will only leave you tired and spiritually/emotionally dormant.
I have had a trillion opportunities in college and really I have yet to have a problem with myself turning opportunities down because I have been such a “to myself” kind of gal through college. I was afraid to step out of my comfort zone and had to force myself to take the next steps God called me too. Recently, I have found myself knit picking myself apart because I have to keep saying no to so many offers. I think about how I may be judged for saying no, or what words may be said behind my back because I am not participating in a role or event or club. But y’all that is all in my head!! People understand that we as humans are only made to carry so much!! I currently serve as a wife first, a student second, and a worker to two different work places third. In my free time I go to church on Sunday morning, a ladies small group Monday afternoon, and the rest of the time is filled with school work, time with my hubby, and time with friends. Everything in that schedule is important for my life and for the people in my life. It currently leaves my schedule with no holes. It also happens to be right where God has led me in this last year of my college career. So why have I beat myself up over such a matter as this?
I cannot, we cannot, let the devil steal our joy. Our strength is our joy from the Lord.
Nehemiah 8:10 Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” (Emphasis added by me)
Do what you feel that God has led you to do. As Lysa T says so beautifully, “make the best yes”, or something of that nature. I constantly remind myself of this value that she instilled in me through her book. All of the opportunities presented to us may be wonderful and have absolutely nothing wrong with them, but that does not mean that God has called us to pursue every single one.
When we pursue too many things we have nothing left to give to our families and our relationship with the Lord, the most important things in our lives.
So, make that best yes choice in your life. Also, check out Lysa’s book “The Best Yes.” It is SO worth the read!!