I’ve been married for two months. Most people say the first year of marriage is the “honeymoon phase,” but I’ve heard others say it’s the hardest year because of learning to live in sequence together.
Yet, for us personally, I don’t really think it’s either. This life we are living feels like a fairy tale. I found my Prince Charming, I wake up with him beside me every day, we laugh, we snuggle, we eat, & do pretty much everything together. It’s amazing. By far the best season of my life yet.
BUT we also have our trials as does anyone else.
Here’s the key: COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND WITH JESUS.
When it’s all said and done, if you are able to talk through the hurt feelings, the disagreement, or whatever, then you will be fine. Pray over it together. Conversate. Don’t be afraid to say what you feel in a respectful manner. Be brutally honest. Be accepting of one another’s feelings. Be understanding. Cry it all out. Top it off with a hug and a kiss. Bang, it’s over and life is still fairy tales.
Here comes the “oh honey you guys are still in the honeymoon phase. It’ll get worse later on, don’t be fooled.”
I truly 100% believe that it won’t get worse. Maybe we will have worse arguments, but I don’t believe it’ll get worse. Marriage is what you make it. If we choose to make our marriage our living fairy tale until we are in Heaven, then by golly we will do just that. Coffee dates for 83 more years are perfectly acceptable to me. Dancing in the kitchen, watching Gilmore Girls, or chasing each other around the house, will always be a fun time spent together. We will just have to try not to break a hip in years to come. 😜
But seriously, it is what you make it. It’s not a phase.
Don’t let people shape your view of your own marriage. You shape that view. Be positive.
Marriage is truly the most beautiful thing.
It’s so beautiful that God described His relationship with us, the church, as a marriage.
To all you newlyweds, or soon to be married couples, marriage is A BLAST!