“One day you’ll understand!”
We hear this statement a lot when we are young, right?
Y’all this statement is so true. As a youngin, it is so annoying to hear that statement, and as an adult it rings truth. One of the things I was consistently taught as a kid was modesty. There is so much importance modesty. Men and women both have a trillion reasons to be modest. The two utmost important reasons I think that modesty is so valuable is because your body is God’s dwelling place (Don’t you know that your body is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own. 1 Corinthians 6:19) & because your body is made for your eyes and your spouses eyes only (A wife does not have the right over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband does not have the right over his own body, but his wife does. 1 Corinthians 7:4).
It wasn’t until the last year that I started to truly grasp the concept of modesty. I always knew it and understood it, but I didn’t care to act on it in my life. I was too tied up in trying to please the crowds around me. If we are brutally honest, most young girls focuses are on how much attention the boys give and how they can fit in amongst the girls. Well, in the materialistic world we live in, that equates to me not caring too much about being modest in order to get that attention from both parties. Sad. Where did all of that attention get me? No where. Am I married to those boys who care about nothing more than girls in bikinis and shorts shorts? No, rather I am married to the man who respects and appreciates the level of modesty I now hold as priority when purchasing new clothing, or putting on an outfit.
Ladies, guys who pay you attention because you wear those extra short shorts or that two-piece bathing suit, are only after one thing. That one thing that is made special for you and your husband. Don’t give in to the temptation for temporary satisfaction! It is not worth it. It leads to regret and shame. Cover yourself. You look a trillion times more beautiful when you are clothed in dignity and righteousness, and a lot more clothing, haha!
It took a good slap in the face from God for me to understand this, and I pray that He will speak to you in the same way. I cannot stress the importance of modesty enough. In a world that is revolving around sex in movies, on every screen, in all types of entertainment, in our high schools (yes, parents it is as common as water in high schools), let’s be the change. We wonder why we see more and more sex at such young ages, why we see more pornography, why sex is being taught at younger and younger ages, but do we ever stop to think that we promote these behaviors by purchasing and wearing clothes that sexualize (not a word, I know) our bodies? I understand that every time that bikini is put on the thought of sex or boys doesn’t cross a girls mind, but I guarantee you the second all the other eyes see you, they think about the tiny bit of your body that is left unrevealed. Promote modesty, promote love for the real reasons, promote respect of yourself and others, promote change in the world by one small step at a time.
I promise that will people will already know a good piece of your morality just by the way you choose to dress. Put aside that, we deserve respect from ourselves. We deserve to be sought after by men who choose us because of the person we are not because our bodies grabbed their attention. Choose modesty over short time gratification that quickly becomes regret.
Friends, every bit of this is said with love and from a heart that has made choices that I wish I could take back. Please do not feel that I am preaching at you, but rather understand that I am a friend giving a tiny piece of her testimony in hopes of making a difference in one’s life.